satyam sivam sundaram

i have just watched the movie rab ne bana di jodi on t.v and also came across the trailers of pyar impossible in between,there was one thing in common in them,very ordinary looking men in love with beauties.a question rose in my mind,what is more important in a person that we look for,specially in opposite sex-outer beauty or inner qualities.person with both these things are very very hard to find which becomes clear once their ingredients are known,let me explain some of them-
outer beauty-health,youthfulness,sexiness(the x-factor if this word sounds offensive),symmetry,complexion.
inner beauty-personality,intelligence,grace,congeniality,charm,integrity,congruity,elegance.
can a single mortal possess all these qualities?
this tough question reminds me of a scarborough fair's impossible task-
ask him to find me an acre of land
between the salt water and the sea strand
plough it with a lamb's horn
sow it all over with one peppercorn
reap it with a sickle of leather
and gather it up with a rope made of heather,
then he will be the true love of mine.
answering some questions is more difficult than solving the chicken egg paradox,as it is to answer as to what we humans adore more-beauty or qualities?.this question is like a double edged sword and there are two answers which are contradictory and complimentary to each other.in favour of beauty first-
BEAUTY-the oxford dictionary meaning of beauty is:the quality of being pleasing to the senses or to the mind.in the movie mujhse dosti karoge when hritik failed to recognize rani,with whom he was in contact through chatting all many years in between and mistook kareena for rani,rani says to him-ham sab apne pyar ko sabse sundar dekhna chahte hain,jo mein nahi hu,tabhi tumne meri taraf dekha tak nahi.same was the case in rajkapoor's satyam sivam sundarm in which the hero was not able to accept his deformed wife.
we all are attracted towards beautiful things,we are made like that.it is like manifestation of theory of evolution in humans,which claims survival of the fittest.but for us humans this becomes survival of the most beautiful,because of the rule of the law.that is why every jassi needs a makeover here to win hearts(in serial- jassi jaisi koi nahi).researchers have found that good looking students get higher grades in assessment by their teachers,attractive patients receive more personalized care from their doctors,attractive people earn more.one of the basic thing you need in hospitality and advertising industry is the beauty.just look for the ugly faces in TV industry or film industry and you will find none because we people want to see only beautiful faces and feel enchanted by them.this is harsh but reality.beauty makes us fall in love at first sight.it is a necessary evil.
QUALITIES-there is a flip side also which is equally true as depicted by these two quotes-
that which is striking and beautiful is not always good,but that which is good is always beautiful.&
people are like stained glass windows.they sparkle and shine when the sun is out,but when the darkness sets in,their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
beauty may cast its spell for a short time but in the long run,qualities win.so beauty is a rabbit and merits are tortoise and it an open secret that who wins race.love at first sight may enthrall you but it is not eternal without merits.life is long and qualities never get old,unlike beauty.so inner beauty is the most important thing to be sought for in lifelong relations as said by Alexander pope-
beauties in vain their pretty eyes may roll,
charms strike the sight,but merit wins the soul.

bytes-1.there is so much hue and cry over the rising prices of sugar,there was a song in manoj kumars 1974 release ROTI,KAPDA AUR MAKAAN-mehngai maar gayi,and its opening words were-
pehle mutthi mein paise leker thella bhar shakkar laate the aur ab thelle mein paise lekar mutthi bhar shakkar laate hain.
after 36 years the words are still relevant.does that means there had been no inflation in the years in between.
2.there is no more a beautiful song i have seen than the song-hosh walon ko khabar kya,of movie sarfarosh.this song is an eye candy.it is delightful,expressive,sublime and has a whole life of its own.