back to roots

a tree can be as long as eucalyptus and as wide as banyan,but it can't leave its roots.similarly a man can't go away from his culture in which he's been brought up.i spent a lot of time away from my state and village.i encountered many cultures,punjabi,nepali,kashmiri,metro due to my father's frequent transfers but the holidays inbetween gave me a chance to feel my own culture.i can still listen the evening bhajans coming out of my village's temple's loudspeaker in my subconsious mind.i can feel every nook and corner of our old haveli like home in village made by my grandfather.i think culture is something pre natal,it just comes through placenta from our mother to us when we are still in womb of mother,remember the abhimanyu's case in mahabharat.the culture of haryana is very rich.haryana is famous(or should i call notorious) for its straight and witty language.the two most famous characters in haryana are its policemen and conductors.remember the trademark joke of a haryanvi policeman(police aale ne challan kaatan katar ek motorcycle aala pakad liya,bola 100 rapiye de,aagla bola ji nahi hain,pher bola 50 rapiye de,aagla bola gi ve bhi nahi hai,jade baat 5 rapiye tak aa gi ar vo bhi ni the,police aala tang aake nu bola chal ek bidi e pyaa de,aagla bola ji vo bhi nahi hai,police aale k uth gya choo aer nu bola;bete free main to tene main bhi ni jaan du,nu kar mere thodi khaaj karjya) and that of a conductor(ek baar ek conductor ka naya naya bhyaa hoya,suhagraat katar kamre mein gaya to bed pe bethi aapni lugaai te bolya;bebe thodi side mein hoyae ek savari aur bethagee).
a haryanvi is born with a trace of wit in him,one can witness this if he joins the card playing toli in a village.ragni is the local song sung in haryana,the competition is called saang.there is a lot of energy needed to sing a raagni so much so that the lungs come in mouth virtually.haryanvi language is very rich in itself.i can prove this by an example,in english language different words to explain the type of rain are-drizzle,downpour,shower,mizzle etc.in comparison there are more haryanvi words to describe rain like-bundabaandi,chaderbheej,musladhhar,kyaribhar,khhudbhar,ro etc.
haryanvi language is full of interesting proverbs,being posted in a village i get to know a few of them.here i am presenting some of them and will try to explain them in english-
1. dusre ki thaali mein ghana ghee dikhyae karey-grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
2.thothaa chana,baaje ghana-an empty pot makes much noise.
3.kutte ne maargi bijli,aer miraad ne dekhke kukave e kukave-a burnt child dreads the fire.
4.thaada maare ron ni de,khaat khosle sone ni de-might is right.
5.sut na punni,julaye gelaya latham lath-to fight issuelessly.
6.kae to ganja khujavae ni,kae lahhu kaadle-either one will not act and when does so,overacts.
7.chor chori te jaave par herapheri te ni jaave-a snake may cast its slough but not venom.
8.chor k mann mein doom ka dhanda-a shrewd man can only fool a weak.
9.gaam basaa ni mangte pehle aa ge-to expect the result of something even before it is done.
10.khadaa daraaba khet mein,na khaa na khaan de-a stingy man neither eats himself nor let others eat.
11.chaaj to bole chaalni bi k bole jisme satar chhed-kettle calling the pot black.
12.aandhya ki maakhi ram hataave-those who have nobody are nursed by god.
13.taate paaniya te dhoond ni jala karde-to serve a guest doesnot cost much.
14.byahi hoyi daga dede,par baayhe hoyi daga na de-your wife may fail you,but your ploughing won't.
15.pahaad tele ki to dikh gi,paa tele ki dikhi ni-all men can see the mote in their brothers eyes,but not the beam in their own.
16.padhe hoye te kadhya hoya baadh re je hai-an experienced man is more worthy than the educated one.
17.bhyaa k saare geet saache nahi hoya karde-not everything said should be believed.
18.kuch to buaa jaane ne taiyar baithi thi,kuch fufaa len aageya-an unexpected good event following another.
19.aapna maare chaa mein gere-blood is always thicker than water.
20.dhoondh to jalaegaa par musaaya ke aankh ho jaengee-what if i have to bear a loss,but the enemy will get a lesson.
21.haandi to gayi par kutte ki jaath ka bera patgaya-what if i had to bear a loss,but i got a lesson.
22.putt ke paa paalne mein hi dikh je hain-an intelligent kid shows early signs.
23.musae ne paagi haldi ki gaanth,usne socha tu e pansaari ban gaya-an unworthy man doesn't know how to use his power.
24.utt gharan ki chitthi banche satyanashi-it is not wise to imitate a rich man.
25.kaatag ki dupahari aur maali ka gaabru thode hi din k hove hain-many things like the two named here are ephemeral.
26.teli ne tel ki aur masaudi ne khal ki-a man will expect according to his level.
27.gud khhake gulgula te parhej-doing one thing but dreading the similar.
28.godi mein chora aur desh dhindhora-to look for what you have with you out of ignorance.
29.mein aayi thhare tu chadhi chubaare-i have just come and you are leaving.
30.jaat ne merya jab maaniye jab holey terahmi-don't believe anything until it is finished.
31.ghar mein do baasan honge to khadkaenge-if their are two pots in a house,they will make noise.
32.ghani shaani do be povae aur paache te bhukhi sovae-an oversmart suffers in last.
33.shudhi chipkali ghane maacher khaya kare-an innocent man may be shrewd inside.
34.gaadad ki taul mein ber ni pakka karde-haste makes waste.
35.ronda jaave meraa ki khabar lyave-doom trails disinterest.
36.fuud chaale saara ghar haale-a funny man distorts everything.
37.dikhdi maakhi kaun khaave-who embraces a clear danger.
38.jab daant the to chane ni the aur jab chane hoye to daant nahi rahe-a thing makes no sense if it doesn't happen at right time.
39.maa pe puut pita pe ghoda ghana nahi to thoda thoda-a progeny will definitely inherit some parental characters.
40.kutte k ghee hazam ni hoya karda-it is of no use to cast pearls before swine.

the generation gap

my grandfather always says that everything sweetens once ripened but not man.he has his own set of beliefs which he changes for none.he worked very hard in his days in fields and used to walk the distance to most of his relative's villages which were as far as 50 km's,a marathon walker.i got to know about his walking skills when i accompanied him to vaishno devi,he left behind the person half of his age and i had to beg for rest inbetween.he went to bhairav mandir which is still higher than vaishno devi.none of my young relatives dared to go there.my grandfater and grandmother have seen tough times in their life.he is always amused that we use a very little ghee in our food,my grandmother told me that she ate 20kg ghee when my father was born.for last 10 years she has been saying that she is going to die in the coming winter.at first i used to be annoyed at the fact that they ask too many questions,but now i am accoustomed to it.my grandfater told me a story- a grandson gets very angry due to frequent questions from his grandfather,then the grandfather shows him a diary and tells him that; when you were a kid ,you asked me so many questions repeatidly and i answered them as many times.he has a story ready for every situation particularly if it is concerned about elders.his thoughts become that of a king in evening after having some drink.he has seen the shortage of money so he spends it very wisely,normally he never gets a big note changed else it would be spend too early.always takes with him a rs.5 coin so that the barber under the tree doesn't demand more for a shave.during his last journey to village a conductor gave him a torn 10 rs note and he did't notice at that time,for last one month he is saying me to go to the bank and get that note changed.he daily attends bhajan's in nearby park to secure a place in heaven.it is a great fun to ask your silly questions to your grandparents,they are more than happy to answer them.once i asked him what else would he like to be if god refuses to make him a human in next birth.after a brief thought he answered me-a parrot.

who says words don't break bones

there are two kind of men in this world,those who read books and those who don't(ofcourse books which are out of syllabus).the most prized possession of human beings till now is the ability to pen down his thoughts and pass them to next generation.books have the power to bring in revolution.there have been books which shaped the mankind the way it is now.a few of them are,the communist manifesto and das kapital by karl marx,the philosophiae naturalis principia mathematica by issac newton,the origin of species by charles darwin,magna carta,the art of war by sun tzu,kama sutra,the republic by plato,canon of medicine by avicenna.books are the source of noblest recorded thoughts of man.a printed page has the power to change your world.in today's fast paced and competitive world nobody has time to listen to our griefs,self help books can be of great help.human is a very weak creature emotionally,he is always in need of some kind of spiritual and emotional support,to fulfil this need he created god,yes sorry for saying this but in my opinion god has't created man,but it is man who created god.man needed someone before whom he can ask for pardon for his wrong doings,this was the simplest way to come out of the feeling of guilt.i am a much happy and content man after i surrendered my life to those insights of great books.when you get to know that you are not the only person in history who is facing your kind of problem and how the great men dealt with those problems,gives you solution and relief.keeping your 10 or 12 heroic and inspirational books before your eyes on your table is always handy.always keep them near you because they emit positive viberations.keep on screening through their pages whenever you get time.it is very important to touch them,feel them everyday.they do magic to you.steve buckner is an all time great umpire in cricket,he knows all rules because of his long experience but even then he reads the cricket rules book every time he steps into field to umpire a match.that shows the power of commitment,repetition and being in touch.it is equally important to read only postive and inspirational books because your mind will give you back only what you offer it.i am yet to solve one problem of mine which is, why my craving to read such books is highest when my annual exams are going and i need to read my syllabus books.

bytes

1.some ads make you think and some make you laugh but a few do the both.ads of virgin mobile and vodafone's zoo zoo's are making a mark these days.i love the tagline of virgin mobile"think hatke",though it is inspired from apple computer's tagline"think different".it is quite interesting to see how the guy befools girl's mother and manages to get permission to go for movie with the girl.audacity of the guy is worth noting when girl says him"tum vakaye bade filmy ho",and he replies"am I".
some other ads which are always a fun to watch are mento fresh"dobara mat puchna" and that of fevicol.
2.even the so called educated ones are prone to malfunction of words,i have noticed some most common mistakes which are;
a.last but not the least( instead of, last but not least)
b.offer valid till stock lasts(correct being,offer valid while stock lasts)
c.i wish you best of luck for your exam(i wish you best of luck in your exam)
d.his father expired(his father passed away or moved on)
e.i am going to give a test(i am going to take a test)
3.in one of my favorite movie"kuch kuch hota hai",shahrukh always says"ham ek baar jite hain,ek baar marte hain,shaddi bhi ek baar hoti hai,aur pyar,pyar bhi ek baar hota hai".i used to love this dialogue till i came to realize ki usse pyar bhi do baar hota hai aur wo shaadi bhi do baar karta hai.long live karan johar.
4.inspite of their deep pessimist approach,i love these lines of saahir ludyaanvi...
"ye mehlon,ye tekhton,ye taajon ki duniya
ye insaa ke dushman samajon ki duniya
ye dolat ke bhukhe ravajon ki duniya
ye duniya agar mil bhi jaye to kya hai"